The power of we is one that has proven to have the power to kill and yet the power to save lives. It is a phenomena that has existed since the beginning of time and remains relevant today but whether it destroys or create depends on how we choose to use and we choose to listen to as a society. If you have not guess, each individual is a part of that power, it is that power. Our attitudes, our beliefs and our morals govern that power.

The power of we has allowed monarchies to rise and also to fall. Hence a leader is nothing without its people.

The power of we has given rise to apartheid and has also brought it to its need. From South African countries marching, to african countries offering refuge, to many more countries putting in place sanctions.

The power of we has given rise to world wars and has put the end to them.

The united nations is reinforces the power of we. How when we all work together we can change the world. How we can save the world and how we can keep peace in the world.

The bible says where a crowd is gathered, the holy spirit is gathered - The power of we.

But I want to bring this post close to home. To a South African born Concept but Global phenomena: "Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu", directly translated from zule to english means, a person is a person because of people. It calls for humanity. It is the definition of The Power of We in its greatest form.

So I write this post in reminder of the Power of We to each individual so that we may come together to save those and help those who cannot do it on their own. Get over yourself and become a part of the rest of us as it is one struggle for all of us.Power corrupts, power corrupts absolutelybut it is up to us to use this in the best way we know how to...to give a hand

I challenge eveyone who reads this post to not only pass on this message but to truly become part of society by giving a hand somewhere where it is truly needed. Exercise the power of we where you are, charity does afterall, begin at home.

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Whos BAD? #ThePowerofWe

With only 4 days left to Blog Action Day, excitement and anxiety are now both eagerly knocking on my door. Anxious because I have all these ideas stuck in my head that I need to share but I need to figure out which ones are more significant to share and how I need to share them on the blogpost so that it has the most effect and it at least changes one, just one mindset and ignite just one action.

Excited to be a part of something so great as if this blog in itself has not giving me enough already. As I have said, we need to learn tio live with each other because it is within each other that we find ourselves and Im definitly getting the liberation I need from this project....

Before I end of this post, you are probably wondering, Who's "BAD"?(PUN INTENDED). I am, you are, we are - It is all in the power of we and we give rebirth to this concept that has always been subconsciously there on the 15th October 2012.. So if you have it already, join us in BAD(Blog Action Day) 2012.

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Blog Action Day 2012

When I first decided to start a blog, it was help me recover from the most life-changing moment o my life. I have since gone through many extraordinary moments, none as life-changing or painful but significant in their own ways.

I have such that moment and all those other moments on this blog to help noone else but me and with your ear, I have risen.Then came a moment where I thought I did not this blog anymore til I realised in your silence, in your listening I was helping you some significantly and some just enough to trigger something - doesn't matter what that thing but it was there regardless. It was all I needed to know that to keep me here.

This year, I decided to take this blog even further and ignite change, by triggering thought. I came across Blog Action Day which is an initiative started by Kabissa to create awareness. To ignite change bu triggering thought. I am proud to say I am one of the 1115 registered bloggers. One of the 8 from south africa giving a voice.

If you are reading this post and you have a blog, be part of it and register on blogactionday.org. This year's theme is "the power of we". I have a topic which is one is very relevant to South Africans but more important relevant to mankind and living with each other - il keep it a secret til 15 October 2012.

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AneTurned21

Perhaps, This post would have probably have been better if I had written before my 21st birthday (yes I know I am baby) to help me with the little speech I had to make at my dinner.

Firstly, I know my friends are tired of hearing me complain about never hosting another birthday celebration. Here is the truth, I most probably will. Yes, I daunted the stress that came with organisng everything because when you plan something you want it to go a certain way and if something goes wrong and you are a psycho like me, it almost creates a distaste for the whole thing. However, nothing beats that moment when that distate is smothered with love - it makes everything worthwhile.
The whole planning process for me was a journey of reflection of truth about where I am in my life and who actually was standing next to me.

You would think for some one who usually flies solo like me getting to 25 people in and around Cape Town would be easy. Infact that is when I realised I am on a journey.When you decide o having an intimate dinner, you want people tha will feel that room with warmth and love. You want to celebrate those people who have carried you through everything and loved you unconditionally and that is not always easily pinpointed.

I am imagined how walking into that room would be - warm. In turned out to be cold and empty and as the room filled up with my guests, it remained so with only droplets of love.At that moment, I knew that there were people who I still embraced who did not even deserve my glance.

Thank you to my mothers, I am now learning to CUT THE CHORD,a phenomena il leave for another day just so you keep an eye out for more posts in the future and no IM NOT PREGNANT.

The question everyone asked is how does it feel being 21 and most people would say it feels the same. It did not feel the same for me.I did not feel different because I turned 21 but i am different because of the love i realised i had experience and now knew I had as I turned 21. The love I am given is everything. The love people showed me and continue to show me is all i am - that is why I am still standing. Given the chance I would do it all again to give me the peace, the love and the strength that has come with being 21.

And although I have had to go of people I have held dear to my heart, those that are true remain.

To my family, you shine through me daily
To my friends. you remind me of the light that  I hold
To him, you have given me the peace that has led me to cut the chord
To God, continue to mould me into the woman you have created me to be.

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Changes

I had the privillege of chilling with the amazing artist, Khanyisile Mbongwe, who up until yesterday I did not know she existed and after being asked to google her, feel like the shit for knowing her - Google Her.

Being with her and the other no name brands who are just as amazing according to me(what your mother would say), I started reminiscing on the different people I have inhibited over the years which were amazing years but has been my biggest downfall in knowing who i am and what I want for myself now and for the future. And if not that, thank you khanyi, iggy and allison for making me write anothe blogpost again - I needed the air it lets me breathe.

I am now contemplating going to an audition that could be alot of fun but one I am not sure forms part of the person I want to become in the future. I am no Bonang Matheba and neither have I wanted to be yet I have gained an interest in the industry ever since my year stint with my dj but what are my interest. who am i, what do I want for myself, where do I want to be, what legacy do I want to leave behind for myself and what am I doing to get there. Is this audition how I get there? Sometimes these questions may seem easy but there is a fine line between being versatile and being a jack of all trades and a master of none. LEARN TO BE THE MASTER. Making such decisions require a certain level of honesty with yourself. One that is tough and will make you lose out on alot of opportunities but one that will allow to reach your potential and grasp opportunities that are best for you.

So today I write this post, not only for myself but for those who need to move forward. Our own little guide book to self-redemption.

1. Face all your past/issues head on.Cry, throw them against the wall(please do not bring harm to others), have a bonfire. do whatever you need to do to let them go. Keep the lessons they have taught you. For those of us who pray, pray to God and ask them to clear you from the past.Ask him for you not to hold yourself back any longer but push you forward.
2. Sit down and ask yourself who and where you want to be; from the way you want to laugh, the cologne/perfume you want to use to the the type of marriage you want to have, how you want to love yourself and those around you, how you want to see yourself and how you want others to perceive you. Paint that image of yourself with every detail but becareful to look within and find who you are and not paint a picture from what other people are. For those of us who pray, pray to God and ask him to show you who He created you to be and your purpose. To infuse what you have come up with and what is to be in His plans for you.At the end of that prayer, say God I have confessed it with my mouth and I know because of that not only has it been justified but it has been done. Thank you.
3. Ask yourself how you need to get there. Plan it and stick to it. Let it be over the top and be realistic at the same time. Take what has worked in the past, leave the rest and create new approaches. You should know how the next line goes: For those of us who pray, pray to God and ask Him to give you the patience with time constraints and people around you who will help you in your journey, perserverance to follow through even when things are not going your way and to keep the bigger picture in mind.Latsly, strength to be able to face the challenges that come with knowing who you are, standing by that person and reaching your dreams - If you sleeping for 5 hours, you are not hungry for it yet.
4. Dont forget to live which is what most of us forget to do and even though you have a dream, do not forget what is important. Little things like love and making memories is what makes life special which brings me my next and probably final point.
5. Love: Learn to love yourself the right way because in doing so you teach yourself how to love and respect the people you cherish.In turn they learn how to love and respect you the way you so rightfully deserve.

Do not let others and the world influence you but listen to what they have to say because so often we miss out on advice/lessons that will groom us.It is important that as much as we want to learn how to live with ourselves, we learn how to live with others because as I have said before, sometimes it is within others that we find ourselves.

All this sounds or seems easier writing it down but making the decisions that follow is even harder. There are many amazing opportunities that will come your way, you can become a jack of all trades and master of none and take all of them, not succeed and excel in all of them and end up not knowing where you are heading; or you can choose the opportunities that are right for you. Ones that will mould you as a person and ones that will strengthen your path. All of them will lure you in but knowing who you are and where you are going comes with a fight to stand by that person and it is that strength and that stand which will allow you to know what is right for you.

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Get over it

During the long weekend of 27 April 2012, yes it was a while back, I had the unfortunate privillege of sitting in what I believe was one of the worst talks I have ever sat in. I will not name the uct professor who spoke for his sake but I will be sure never to attend one of his talks again.

However, I did try and make sense of what he was saying and despite my distaste for his overall talk, he had some very interesting parts in between the hogwash.

My posts are usually close to home but not this one. This one is about tolerance and learning to live with ourselves and each other and as the uct professor put it" Get over yourself" - although his context of the clause is far from mine I grabbed it anyway.

We live our lives consumed in ourselves which is not necessarily a bad thing but becomes one once we think we are better than others. I had a chat with my roommate the other day and we were talking about how God surely must taken bribes because some plans are just way to good while other people are worse off. What I find amazing though, is how He has managed to make us need each other despite the two ends of each other. We cannot inhabit this world on our own and the more we get over ourselves there more we will be able to save whats left of humanity and our world. A way to ensure that the atrocities of the past do not repeat itself and the fear itself disappear because it is the fear that takes us two steps back even when you have moved behind.

My mom the other day told me about a sermon she had heard at church which just asserts how you are linked and how we all need each other even when we do not know it.

A youn ghungry boy was hungry and went around asking for food. After many let downs, who knocked at a door where a woman had given her some milk. Years later this young boy had become a doctor and the woman had grown older and sick and needed a very expensive operation which she could not afford.
Having been admitted at the hospital the doctor works at, the doctor decided to walkk around check on this woman only to find it was the woman who gave her the milk years ago. The man put out his hand to the woman and said you paid for this operation with the milk you gave me years ago because maybe I would not even be here.

Lesson: If we put ourselves aside, you start a chain of goodwill and it is that chain that can change the world.

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Everything happens for a reason

This post does not at all reflect where I am in my life but reflects where I am in my heart and soul. Dear dad, losing you and your love, laughter, kindness and affection remains the hardest and most painful thing I have ever had to deal with to date.

Some days seem better than the rest but there ones that I remember you are gone are the harder than the last one. I may have said goodbye but my heart will never be able to part from you and the person you have been in my life.

I need you. I want you. I cannot rewind time but I want to so badly; given the chance I would choose to have left with you than to stay with this pain, this emptiness.

I dedicate this post to every person who has lost a loved one, who continues to carry this unbearable pain with me and my family...

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I miss you peanuts - Gone but not Forgotten

"Sweet, No Mkata Mkata"